The Undoing
It is to occupy yourself, to really land in the world, to be subject, looking outwards.
· 01 The Theory
Within the plethora of discoveries, fixes and less than honest media characters with dodgy scientific credentials, one genuine voice stands out — neuroscientist, author and psychologist Lisa Feldman Barrett.
Her research suggests that while experience feels triggered — fixed, inevitable, simply the way things are — it is in fact constructed, continuously, from bodily state, context, and culture.
Simplified only slightly: what we experience is less a response to what is happening than the brain’s best guess about what is about to happen.
Which raises a question worth pausing for: if experience is constructed, can it be de/reconstructed?
· 02 The diagnosis
It is not the only thing that goes wrong. But it may be underneath much of what does.
The “you” is not a neutral observer. It is an ersatz self — constructed from the outside in, from other people’s assessments, expectations, and the conclusions drawn from a lifetime of being seen. It is the self that got built in place of the one that didn’t quite get the chance to form.
And because it was built from external evaluation, it remains permanently subject to it — measuring, finding wanting, occasionally swinging into brittle defence, but never quite settling. Never quite enough.
The internal tyrant that won’t stop. The sense that your life is smaller than it should be. The wrongness you cannot think your way out of. The work you cannot finish, the decision you keep circling.
None of these are character flaws. They are what the ersatz self produces.
This is what the sessions work with — not by explaining it, not by reframing it, but by examining it directly until the position itself begins to shift.
· 03 The work has two elements
What we do together
Releasing
An expanded version of the Sedona Method, a structured process for interrupting the emotional charge around stuck material. We work from the principle of all is welcome here — strange ideas, unspoken thoughts, stories you’re less than proud of. We’re not analysing it or trying to understand it. We’re undoing it, just in that moment.
The technique is borrowed from an established method. The direction is different. The aim is not to dissolve the self or detach from experience. It is to inhabit yourself more fully — to move from object to subject, from audience to the person actually living the life.
Analogue activity
For those who don’t already have an established or consistent practice and want to find one: analogue writing, drawing, doing the thing that has become difficult.
A more coherent self is not built through introspection alone. It is built through acting, surviving the discomfort of acting, and discovering you had more agency than you believed.
Live sessions via YouTube (beginnning 1st July 2026).
· 04 Fit
- You are intelligent and self-aware — and neither has solved the problem.
- You find most coaching offers too reductive, too focused on practicalities you can already work out alone.
- You have a persistent sense that your life is smaller than it could be, and can’t name exactly why.
- You feel a deep sense of wrongness — or not-good-enoughness — at odds with your external situation.
- You are sick of being told that seeing clearly is “being negative”.
- You want to be taken seriously and listened to, rather than treated or managed.
- You are in acute mental health crisis. Please seek qualified support.
- You are looking for advice, or for someone to tell you what to do.
- You need a promise of transformation that will make everything easy.
· 05 — Working together
One session shifts something. Three is where patterns start to unravel
€280 · three sessions · one hour each
Individual sessions, built entirely around what you bring. No standard script, no programme to follow.
Audio recordings after each session, between-session support by email and phone, plus one or two short releases recorded specifically for you.
Say It sessions
Say It sessions are 40 minutes — space to say what has so far had nowhere to go.They are a stripped-down format: a hard stop at 40 minutes, no between-session support. I’m offering 48 sessions at this rate while I establish the live format.
During the session, if you want to work with what comes up using the Sedona Method, we can do that. If you want to use the time simply to say what hasn’t been said, that’s the whole point.
· 06 About
A facilitator in the Sedona Method with twelve years of practice — combined with training in trauma-informed body work, clinical hypnosis, trading psychology, creative process and over of a decade of experience working one-to-one with clients and leading groups.
The rest of my background is unusual for this kind of work and that makes a difference. Six years studying fine art in London at Chelsea then the Royal Academy. Fifteen years writing complex technical documentation for investment banks. Trading. Making things, including some fantastic decisions and other gut-wrenchingly bad mistakes.
- Not a therapist
- Not a certified life coach
- No weird guru vibes or spiritual gaslighting
. 07 From clients
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08 Recordings
Not ready? Start here
Let go of wanting to control others
Let go of expecting the worst
Let go of feelings about other people (the clean up process)
What if this is it, this
life, now?